Surprisingly, my theorized trajectory for my life seems to have repented toward the positive.
Without regard to the odd commentary post from a schoolmate on the entry below, I'm well pleased with this turn of events. Lectures pass along uneventfully, and club activities are more numerous. In fact, the science club will be going on a field trip to a local aquarium today, 6 February. Having been three or four times within the past two years to this particular aquarium, I'm not exactly ecstatic about going on the trip. What excites me is the fact that I'll be bringing along a new friend (who shall be referred to by the French meaning of her name, "to protect," thus she is Protector) with me. She is incredibly attractive, somewhat witty, perfectly cynical, Libertarian, and [insert list of other positive qualities]. What's more, she actually seems interested in me. Body language, body position (in relation to my position), general eye contact, etc. indicate that she seems to have the same level of interest in me that I have in her, and other people that I spend time with (my boss, "Snakes" namely) have commented on it (and the comments tend to be positive and encouraging).
I am pleased with this.
Rehearsals are sailing along. While it seems that our Hamlet struggles with the vocabulary of the time, he is not the only actor to have those problems, and he compensates with sheer dedication.
And I met an architecture student this week. She lives in the next town over, and seems interesting, if not bored in class. Depending on whether or not she goes into civil engineering, I might ask her to design my "dream house." (Imagine antebellum, sheltered by several acres of woods, at least two stories.)
I've met many new students in the past week, and properly assimilated them into my network. Several have already benefited from my vast knowledge of the school and its personnel.
That's all that I can think would be different. If I ever decide to quit procrastinating, I'll work on a deviancy project for Sociology. And if you're lucky, dear reader, I'll write about it here.
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Yes, this is much more optimistic. If I may be so bold as to bluntly give my opinion? Heck, I already did once. Ha.
From reading your last post, with those confusing letters about some chicks....dude, it was like a word problem. Ugh.
Anyway. It seems to me that you jumped from girl to girl, and that you are totally obsessed with having a romantic relationship. There is more to life than that, and while I agree that every human desires and needs companionship like that, for it to be your main focus (which is what it seems like) is not the best thing.
From the things I've heard, and what I've read from you, you come on a little strong. Dude, that totally makes chicks run the opposite direction. To put it bluntly, you kinda seem desperate. Tone it down a little, and don;t get to amped (is that even a word?? whatever. lol) up over a girl's body language. I know you're a psych major and all, but it's still easy to misinterpret someone's intentions....especially if you're biased one way or the other, which influences your perception of someone's actions. Basically, stay optimistic, that's a good thing, but don't pull the wool over your own eyes (wow...never thought I'd use THAT expression) by reading into things that aren't there, thereby setting yourself up for disappointment (uh...again?)
All in all. Much more positive sounding blog. I give it my seal of approval. (not that it's worth anything)
and with that, I leave for. Goodnight.
Edit: That last part was supposed to read
"And with that, I leave you. Goodnight."
Well, I attempt to safekeep the names of people if I write about them, and I'm not very creative when it comes to making up new names to replace the original ones with. Thus, I usually go for the name's meaning. Unfortunately in that last post, some of the names were just awkward to write that way in ("port of ships" for instance. How does one refer to that quickly like one does a name?), so I just used letters.
Most of the people that I befriend tend to be female, and unfortunately, that suggests to me a romantic involvement with one.
Honestly, it's not that I'm looking so much for a romantic relationship as just any relationship from which I can obtain a sense of "love and belongingness," according to Maslow (rotten humanists). But you are very correct in that I tend to develop biased, one-sided relationships that are quite unhealthy for all involved.
You seriously needed to talk to other people to come to that conclusion? I could have told you that (although I think that "little" is a vast understatement). For this instance, I'm inclined to read into it with my bias because others have mentioned it to me. Ordinarily, I'd simply attribute it to that person's personality to use a European comfort zone if she were to walk and stand as close as she did. Of course, you are quite correct in my needs to stay objective.
But I wouldn't worry. At this point, disappointment is as close a friend as any I've had so far. Events happen, people are affected, and life goes on. I know this; we always survive.
That being said, you're welcome to stalk/follow me around when I'm with her (Protector) and email me your thoughts of our interaction. I'll probably look into correcting my behaviours accordingly.
haha I figured, it just reminded of highschool word problems. "Port of ships"? What a crappy meaning to have. I feel sorry for her. Ha.
Yikes! I didn't mean that you develope those relationships, but rather, if you approach someone with "They are DEF interested in me" then your interpretations of their behavior will be interpreted with that bias. Likewise, if you approach them with "This is just going to end in disappointment" then your actions will reinforce that behavior. I took a Psych class, like, forever ago. Wouldn't that be self-fulfilling prophecy? At any rate, I don't mean that you ARE doing either of those things, just it's wise to avoid it.
It's just that, if you focus ALL of your attention on one or two people at a time. Constantly suggest hanging out, things to do with them, etc. It can come across as overwhelming, and they will likely back away. being with a chick does not have to mean "Dude, I wanna date you." Before you even approach that subject, just try and be friends. Don't push a lot of private hang out time (girls feel pressure. A girl friend of mine told me that once). Unless you happen to come across a chick who wants to rapidly jump into something, you'll scare her off. Keep your words and actions at the friendship level. If you come across as "OMG I'm so lonely and need love in my life right now." most people, as unfortunate as it is, will back away. Sadly, not enough people care about other people enough to try to help them.
And, like a said, anonymous. Perhaps one day I'll reveal myself. It depends on what I think your reaction to who I am will be. Ha.
Why? I wouldn't feel sorry for her. She's a good person, albeit a tad too concerned with religion for my liking, who happens to be very bright and kind.
Not necessarily. Granted, while that is often the case, you assume that people are static. Opinions change, and it is possible (although not probable) that one can enter into a relationship (friend or otherwise) thinking one thing and end up at the other end of the spectrum.
Yes, that is called a self-fulfilling prophecy. But just because you've taken ONE class doesn't mean that you have insight that I don't. I'm currently taking #4 & 5 right now.
Sadly, I'm going to disagree with your advice here. Granted, beginning with a friendship is usually the best route to take. However, I'm of the opinion that there are occasions when you can't settle for a friendship; it's either the two of you end up dating or there is nothing there and you're sick of having numerous "friends" that have resulted from failed romantic endeavours, so you just say no to the friendship.
I'm pretty sure that you're missing the meaning here. Follow without being seen. It's possible.
But hey, do whatever you want.
I dunno. "Port of ships" just seems like a not cool meaning for a name haha.
First part, true.
Second part, just hold up a minute, partner! I did NOT mean that I have insight that you do not. Hello, I am aware that you are a Psych major...so...DUH! Self-fulfilling prophecy jumped into my brain, and I was like "Hey! IS that what this would be?" Which is why I said "Would that be a self-fulfilling prophecy?" That's all. I'm not stupid, kiddo, I'm quite aware that you have had plenty more psych classes than I. Don't assume that I claim to have superior knowledge than you on this particular topic. That would be highly foolish of me. I try to avoid being foolish.
I don't mean that you have to settle for friendship. By all means, if it doesn't work out, then sometimes a choice has to be made. I know people who can remain friends with "failed romantic endeavors" and I also know those who cannot.
What I DO mean, is that it might not be the best thing to go charging into a new acquaintance with romance as the top priority. I don't mean this in any kind of negative way towards you at all, but as a way to hopefully help you be successful, and avoid further disappointment. I don't think that there is any problem with having romance in the back of your mind, but I don't think that it should come out too quickly if you are just getting to know someone. However, like I keep saying, this is just my opinion, and I hold no kind of authority to tell you what is "right" or "wrong."
:)
It's a perfectly normal name, and rather common for a girl.
Ah.
It is different to interact with a person as opposed to simply observing them, is it not?
Very well, I can agree to no ad hominem as well.
Very well, I shall regretfully concede to your opinions. But keep in mind that you are speaking for a vast majority of people. Granted, there are a lot of people in the majority that can make for some good friends or romantic relationship, but I find that I am more interested in the smaller group of people that deviate from the social norms. I think that they are a tad more interesting, because at least they attempt to struggle against the majority.
And this is where your advice starts to break down.
hahaha I'm not trying to speak directly for anyone. Lordy, I would never claim to have any kind of authority to proclaim that everyone thinks a certain way. I'm giving my personal opinion from my experience, observations, lessons, and interactions with the world around me. :)
Meh....still, you speak based on observations of people that tend to follow a long series of rules. I hate it. I'd rather live, and I definitely want a partner to live with me!
You hate the long series of rules?
Yes, it would be nice to have a partner, but I'm not going to allow my need of romantic companionship to rule my life. If it's supposed to happen, I believe it will happen.
Well, being Libertarian, I'm pretty much against having rules in general.
Eh, it'll either happen or it won't. I am just hoping that it will.
I have very little knowledge of what being a Libertarian actually means. Care to enlighten me?
Ah, yes, me too. lol
On the political spectrum, moving right, there are the Republicans, Libertarians, and then the anarchists. Libertarians tend to want as little government as possible.
I suppose we'll all know by Sunday.
Ah, I see.
You are putting a deadline on whether or not you receive the companionship that you seek? If it doesn't happen by Sunday, what then? Life goes on, just the same. Only, with less pink and red. Good things can still happen. :)
To an extent. Protector is too good to me, and I treat her as best as I possibly can. I was hoping that we would have the traditional Hallmark holiday on Sunday, but alas, she does not celebrate Valentine's Day. And after she's explained it to me, not only do I agree, I'm quite inclined to join her.
But to answer your question, then nothing happens on Sunday. That'll be all. We'll still spend plenty of time together regardless of if we do so to celebrate a certain holiday.
And you're quite right, good things do happen. I appreciate your positive support. Perhaps one day I will learn your name so that I can thank you properly.
Sounds good to me.
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